Marriage is a tremendous investment in time, emotions,
memories, your whole way of life. It is a lot to lose.
Your Sanity:
Suffering confusion, doubts, strong emotions? Perhaps
you feel out of control. Working things through will help.
Pain:
Reconciliation is hard work, but no more work than any unhappy
marriage. Reconciliation is painful, but not as painful as divorce.
Divorce is expensive and never really ends.
You can't run away from yourself:
If you divorce, your problems will follow you. Whether or not you
stay together, it is important to understand what is happening
and how to avoid it in the future.
Health:
Discord often brings stress-related symptoms. Reconciliation is
healthier for both of you.
Children:
Children are a good reason for working on your relationship.
"If children had a vote, there would be no divorce." (NMC White
Papers) Besides, reconciliation teaches them how to live. Family is
worth fighting for.
Reconciliation:
"With your brothers and sisters" is a central theme of the
Jewish- Christian tradition.